Making the rounds on (where else?) social media:
Daughter to Dad – TEXTING Communication in Todays Generation:
*Daddy, I am coming home to get married soon, so get out your check book. LOL*
*I’m in love with a boy who is far away from me.*
*As you know, I am in Australia, and he lives in Scotland. We met on a dating website, became friends on Facebook, had long chats on Whatsapp, he proposed to me on Skype, and now we’ve had two months of relationship through Viber. *
*My beloved and favorite Dad, I need your blessing, good wishes, and a really big wedding.” *
* Lots of love and thanks, *
*Your favorite daughter,* * Lilly *
* * * * *
*Dads reply ….also by texting*
*My Dear Lilly,*
*Like Wow! Really? Cool!*
*Whatever….., I suggest you two get married on Twitter, have fun on Tango, buy your kids on Amazon, and pay for it all through Paypal.*
*And when you get fed up with this new husband, sell him on Ebay…*
Other good advice from dads:
Behaviour I can have a bit of a temper (when provoked ;)) his advice has always been “a match stick burns itself before it burns anyone else” – so true. Basically “calm the heck down” lol x
Money (Credit) Never live in someone else’s pocket.
Relationships: “My father made this self-absorbed teenager aware of the other people in the world. I was 18 during World War II and in the Navy. When I came home for boot leave, I spent all of my days and evenings with a girl that I was madly in love with. My father took me aside and said, ‘This girl will marry someone else if you are killed, but your mother will grieve the rest of her life. Spend some time with your mother.’ For an 18-year-old boy, this was a mortifying awakening. My father had always been an example of a strong spirit, and I admired him for that. He was an oak of a man, but he showed me that feelings for others was also part of being a man. That scene with my father is still a vivid memory to me 70 years later. I think his words and his example were a guide to me as a husband and a father.”
Work: When I first entered the working world, my dad told me that it’s as important to remember the assistant’s name as the boss’s. It’s good manners, but it’s also smart business: After all, if you ever need something, you won’t get to the boss unless you’re on good terms with the person who handles her schedule. Having worked as an assistant myself, I know firsthand that he was right. I would make a point to go out of my way to help people who treated me kindly.
Lots of other advice at these sites.
My own father, now 96, tended to phrase his advice as questions rather than sayings. For example, once he heard that people were very upset that two kingpin gangsters had killed each other in a gunfight. These people were worried about the increase in violence in society. He looked up puzzled from his work (he was an accountant) and asked, “But… how is that a problem and not a solution? Can we not persuade them all to either quit violent crime now or else go and do likewise? ”
Now, obviously one can see certain deficiencies in the reasoning, if taken with utmost seriousness. But he did not intend it to be taken with utmost seriousness. He was trying to instill in his children a capacity for practical reasoning: as in, what is the problem with this situation, apart from the fact that it troubles me?
I never hear this ballad without thinking of him:
Denyse O’Leary is a Canadian journalist, author, and blogger.