2018 Pride Parade in New York City, via Wiki Commons
Fifty years ago gay, lesbians and cross-dressers fought back when police raided a seedy bar in New York, the Stonewall Inn. The ensuing riot lasted for a couple of days. It was the opening shot in the gay liberation movement and over the years has acquired an almost mythological status. This weekend, “pride” events will be celebrated across the world.
I became a gay activist 20 years after the Stonewall Riots. I set out to fight for a better world, where no one should feel shame for being honest about who they were sexually attracted to.
I had been raised to believe that a person’s future flows from facing their present reality. My reality was that I fancied men, and only men.
Accepting during puberty that I was erotically attracted to my own sex was an excruciatingly painful revelation, and not without suicidal undertones. By accepting my reality I found a new inner strength, purpose – and yes, pride.
To the best of my knowledge, I was the first person to come out in my Catholic high school. I was also the first person to come out in my university college and consequently saw it as my duty to make a stand for lesbian and gay, or L & G, rights. (There were no BTQQIAAPP+2S minorities in those days.)
I learned of the successful attempt in 1973 by gay members of the American Psychiatric Association to tweak 81 words which suddenly redefined homosexuality and cast off its ancient shackles as a sexual deviance and a mental disease. Just this past week, American psychoanalysts offered an apology for labelling homosexuality an illness.
In the 80s, I engaged with leading gay strategists from the USA and the UK. I devoured their content which outlined all we are seeing transpire today.
Their strategy was that homosexual men and women should infiltrate and take leadership within key areas of society, most notably the entertainment industry, mainstream media, education, politics, healthcare – especially psychology and psychiatry, the military, religion and sport. The purpose was to use their positions to bring about homosuperiority. Yes, not homonormativity or even mere equality, but homosuperiority.
Homosuperiority was to be achieved by meticulously following the propaganda manifesto entitled After The Ball: How America Will Conquer Its Fear and Hatred of Gays In The 90s, by neuropsychiatrist Marshall Kirk and communications consultant Hunter Madsen,.
If you didn’t know, the manifesto is working exceedingly well, thank you very much, with its key themes on display in the Israel Folau debacle.
There were eight principles. Principle 5 laid down in After The Ball calls for portraying gays as victims, not as aggressive challengers, and the use of “propaganda” to rely “more upon emotional manipulation than upon logic, since its goal is, in fact, to bring about a change in the public’s feelings”.
“Propaganda,” it says, “can be unabashedly subjective and one-sided. There is nothing necessarily wrong with this.” Corporate Australia has dived headfirst into this principle.
To call people “homophobic” is also expected should opponents fail to wholly embrace homosexual ideology. Politicians and civic leaders have equally become puppets to this principle.
Any speech which opposes, or even questions, homosexual behaviour should be banned as “a clear and present danger to public order”. The school curriculum, psychology and psychiatry and mainstream media all now tow the rainbow party line.
Principle 5 states that “in time, we see no reason why more and more diversity should not be introduced into the projected image” citing “drag queens, bull dykes, and other exotic elements of the gay community”. Remember, this vision was cast over 30 years ago. You now need look no further than local bookshops and libraries to see this principle being lived out.
Once birthed, the seed of pride demands that layers of further lies and calumny be added to protect the original fault from being exposed. Welcome to the world of Gay Pride.
With every generation there is a growing demand to ensure each social stratum is more deeply inculcated with adherence to the original lie. No one must admit that the emperor has no clothes on.
Therefore, “conversion therapy”, a term recently created by gay activists, has been used in the past decade to demonise any assistance given to someone suffering the pain of same-sex attraction.
To add another layer of lies to the conversion therapy myth is the phrase “internalised homophobia” which denotes that individuals who refuse to embrace and even celebrate their erotic attractions to the same sex are somehow turned in against themselves. Yes, they are their own problem.
This of course requires a complete perverting of the natural world. Aldous Huxley wrote clearly of this when describing the results of social anthropologist J. D. Unwin’s study of 80 primitive tribes and six known civilizations through 5000 years of history laid out in the book, Sex and Culture.
Sex and Culture is a work of the highest importance. Unwin's conclusions… may be summed up as follows. All human societies are in one or another of four cultural conditions: zoistic, manistic, deistic, rationalistic. Of these societies the zoistic displays the least amount of mental and social energy, the rationalistic the most. Investigation shows that the societies exhibiting the least amount of energy are those where pre-nuptial continence is not imposed and where the opportunities for sexual indulgence after marriage are greatest. The cultural condition of a society rises in exact proportion as it imposes pre-nuptial and post-nuptial restraints upon sexual opportunity.
According to Unwin, after a nation becomes prosperous it becomes increasingly liberal with regard to sexual morality and as a result loses its cohesion, its impetus and its purpose. The process, says the author, is irreversible:
The whole of human history does not contain a single instance of a group becoming civilized unless it has been absolutely monogamous, nor is there any example of a group retaining its culture after it has adopted less rigorous customs.
The LGBTQI+ communities barely bat an eyelid to open relationships – before, during, after and without same-sex marriage. Group or polyamorous relationships are fast becoming acceptable. Any additional minority that wishes to add its letter to the alphabet acronym must be welcomed and incontestably supported, meaning that any sexual activity undertaken by any minority group who “cannot help the way they feel” be accepted. This should both frighten and anger us.
It is no wonder that 50 years after Stonewall, contemporary riots are not being waged on the streets against the police and statutory authorities but appear online with rugby at the heart, one of the globe’s toughest team sports that was deliberately formed not only on Christian values, but with the purpose of forming a strong, robust and masculine spirit evidenced in the witness of Israel Folau.
Our online riot is foremost a fight against Judeo-Christian values, the very glue that has held together Western society and permitted it to excel as it has.
The activists’ world I embraced demanded that I take on a calculated intolerance, a bigoted mindset, a capacity to rabidly hate, and the ability to reject, or at least to distort, everything I came across that even questioned the establishment of a homosuperior world. And all of this while bowing to the mantra that #LoveWins.
I had to believe first within myself that the lie I was being sold was nothing short of the truth. There is no wonder that lavender militants are alarmed to discover that the younger generation they have been resolutely brainbow-washing are now growing less rather than more tolerant of LGBTQI+ individuals and ideals.
Stonewall and contemporary LGBTQI+ activism have never been about an equal, diverse, inclusive and tolerant world. No. The illusory pot of gold at the end of the rainbow is more a darkened cauldron. It brings to the table a diminishment, and ultimate eradication, of mainstream freedoms such as speech, thought, association or a belief or anything which fails to pay total homage to what for millennia has previously been defined as a sexual deviancy.
If you think I have an axe to grind, well, you are right. I care too much to remain silent.
On a daily basis I walk with young people coming to terms with their same-sex attractions, with individuals struggling with the concept of being male or female, and with men and women ditching their other-sex spouse and children (and now even their same-sex spouse and surrogate or adoptive children) to pursue a “more fulfilling” relationship with one or more people somewhere over the rainbow.
Fifty years on from Stonewall, with every pillar of society now rainbow-friendly and frightened, I see 50 plus shades of gay grey which continue to imprison those who pursue an LGBTQI+ utopia. Five decades later, dysfunction has not only been accepted, but in places it has actually worsened.
The cocktail of gay hook-up apps along with accessibility to the drug Truvada taken by HIV-negative people to reduce their risk of HIV infection has birthed a more sexually compulsive world than existed prior to the AIDS epidemic of the 80s. Unbridled sexual activity only leads to more addictive and destructive disconnection, which in turn is leading to more partner interpersonal violence and sadistic practices.
The sexual health clinicians I have spoken to in the past month report working on a constant level of overdrive trying to deal with the inordinate numbers of problematic sexual health cases they have to diagnose and process.
Self-harm is on the rise, even if only looked at from the perspective of time spent engrossed in the consumption of pornography which cuts off individuals from the healthy engaging relationships which we all need to survive and thrive. Then there are the mood disorders, panic, bi-polar and conduct disorders. There is a new rise in agoraphobia, and no significant reduction in suicides, even in pro-homosexual nations like Sweden, the Netherlands and New Zealand.
Is this the Golden Liberation we should be celebrating? For the most part, the 50th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots is a celebration of man’s ever deepening foolishness. The story of Israel Folau reads like a fable and yet unravels before our very eyes displaying layers of pride woven to cover pride to cover earlier pride, all based upon one man privately posting online three verses of the Christian Scriptures.
I fear for members of the LGBTQI+ community and for those who join their ranks. I equally fear for any society that embraces essentialist viewpoints about human sexuality without the balance of constructionist and developmental viewpoints which are presently being silenced.
My activism today is born out of a different heart. For nearly two decades I have facilitated spiritual support groups for those who experience varying degrees of same-sex attraction and for those questioning their biological sex. Those who attend can ask deeper questions compared to those who remain isolated at home or who engage with the gay community as a whole. Attendees desire answers – and many get them, and especially to matters relating to childhood sexual abuse, to emotional or physical abuse or neglect.
If one person can move from being homosexual to heterosexual (and believe me there are thousands across Australia and in every nation who are rejecting homosexuality) then it is clear that the fundamental LGBTQI+ narrative of being born gay contains within it a number of myths, each one of which requires dismantling, not celebrating.
I still fight for spaces where young and old alike can face the reality of their attractions. No one should be afraid to admit to, or be discriminated against for, being erotically attracted to their own sex or for questioning their own gender identity.
And yet as celebrations of Gay Pride unfold across the globe, today more than ever I believe we need to take stock of the Biblical proverb quoted consistently throughout the ages, “Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.”
I was invited to reject pride. Today, my dominant attraction is very much towards women. I am one of the fortunate individuals who escaped the gay community and stumbled across professional therapy which enabled me to pursue the developmental viewpoint about human sexuality.
My earlier dysfunctions, still prevalent at the heart of the LGBTQI+ community, have diminished or disappeared. I am no longer a label, or divided from mainstream society, or fighting a losing battle.
Fifty years on from the Stonewall Riots in Manhattan, much has indeed changed, but not all for the good. Instead of giving time and energy to matters of pride, I believe it is time to engage on a whole new level of forming a society where humility becomes ubiquitous at all levels. And for everyone’s sake, that is a battle worth fighting for.
James Parker is a former gay activist who today supports same-sex attracted people and their loved ones.