Children in the Canadian Province of Ontario returned to school this week and a highly controversial sex education curriculum that brought parents out in a one-day protest across the province. They were objecting to their young children being taught in the classroom about same-sex relationships, consent, sexting, masturbation, gender expression and contraception.
Too much, too soon, in the opinion of many parents. Too much – ever — for schools to take on themselves, according to some of them. It appears that parents can have their children exempted from classes about masturbation and contraception but not about homosexuality and gender identities.
Meanwhile, what’s completely missing in sex education for teenagers, says Peter Jon Mitchell of the Institute for Marriage and Family Canada in the following article, is any discussion of love and marriage.
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About 88 percent of Canadian teens say they expect to marry someday.1 This is a good thing since there is ample evidence that marriage remains the gold standard for family formation, offering benefits to adults and children alike.
That said, marriage rates have been in general decline over the last number of decades. And Canadians who do marry are waiting longer to tie the knot, entering marriage for the first time at an average age of about 30.2
This means that today, people entering marriage have often accumulated much more than a decade of romantic relationships. So just how does a young person today find their way through this history into life-long marriage?
One place they are not likely to find evidence-based guidance is at school in sexuality education classes. This should give us pause since research shows that teen relationship history is linked to future romantic patterns.
Relationship patterns start early
A few years ago the Journal of Marriage and Family published a study examining the dynamics between family structure, teen relationships, and later romantic partnerships in young adulthood. Examining the literature, the researchers stated that, “Adolescent relationships form the foundation for relationships later in the life course by providing training for intimacy.”3Teens who engage in numerous short-term relationships or non-romantic sexual relationships were more likely to enter less stable relationships as young adults.4
It makes sense: Teen romantic relationships and sexual relationships establish patterns for later relationship development.
The researchers also linked parental romantic partnerships to teens’ relationship decision making. In short, there is an intergenerational link between parental partnership histories and later romantic relationships of their offspring.5 Teens whose families experienced disruption were more likely to have multiple relationships and non-romantic sexual partners during adolescence. Research links these experiences with the increased likelihood of teens forming less stable cohabiting relationships later as young adults.6 Home environment influences later relationship patterns.
After examining the data, the authors concluded that having stable, married parents is closely correlated with the formation of later stable partnerships.7 Healthy marriages serve as a model.
Regardless of family background, helping young adults achieve the healthy marriages they desire requires greater attention to their early romantic lives.
Another factor: education
Of course relationship history alone isn’t the sole factor in determining whether someone who wants to get married will. For example, we can see that marriage is not declining equally across the economic spectrum. Esteemed sociologist Paul Amato recently pointed to the challenge of the marriage gap between higher educated adults who get and stayed married and those with less formal education who are less likely to marry or stay married.8
Canada too, has a marriage gap along income lines.9 Amato argues that poor economic prospects for many working class Americans has prevented entrance into marriage.
Amato points to significant cultural changes that have contributed to the decline of marriage as the center of family life.
Information students deserve to know
Unlike the US, there has been no Canadian conversation regarding government funded marriage education. However, federal and provincial governments devote significant focus to sexuality education. Since the evidence shows teen relationships are the training ground for intimacy, sexuality education should help students identify the relational patterns and skills that will benefit the future marriage relationships teens say they envision.
Ontario’s new sexual health curriculum set to be implemented this fall is touted as the most progressive provincial curriculum in Canada, yet it fails to address how teen’s current relationships influence later relationship patterns. The curriculum authors intend health education to play a “key role in shaping students’ views about life, relationships, healthy development, physical activity, and how they learn.”10 The focus on developing healthy relationships teaches consent, physical readiness for sexual activity, safer sex and pleasure by grade seven.11
Entirely absent is any discussion of the evidence linking early romantic and sexual relationships with the success of future partnerships in young adulthood. Furthermore, other scholars have already noted the absence of the concept of love.12
These are significant shortcomings. Sex education cannot focus exclusively on the short term without advising students how these choices impact later relationship formation.
Marriage remains an important societal institution—all research points in this direction. The barriers to entering a healthy marriage are worthy of study and discussion. It’s true that not everyone is interested in marriage, but teens and young adults would be better served if they were presented with information about the future relationship model close to 90 percent say they desire.
Peter Jon Mitchell is a Senior Researcher at the Institute of Marriage and Family Canada. This article is reproduced with permission from the IMFC website.
- Bibby, R.W. (2001). Canada’s teens. Toronto: Stoddart Pub. Table 4.6, p. 144.
- The average age of first marriage in Canada is 29.1 for women and 31.1 for men. Employment and Social Development Canada. Chart: Average age at first marriage, by gender, 1921-2008. Family Life – Marriage. Retrieved from http://well-being.esdc.gc.ca/misme-iowb/.3ndic.1t.4r@-eng.jsp?iid=78
- Ryan, S., Franzetta, K., Schelar, E. and Manlove, J. (2009). Family structure history: Links to relationship formation behaviour in young adulthood. Journal of Marriage and Family, vol. 71, no. 4, p. 949.
- Ryan, Franzetta, Schelar and Manlove, 2009, Family structure, p. 950.
- Ryan, Franzetta, Schelar and Manlove, 2009, Family structure, p. 949.
- Ryan, Franzetta, Schelar and Manlove, 2009, Family structure, p. 950.
- Amato, P.R. (2015). President’s report: Is marriage becoming passé? National Council on Family Relations. Retrieved fromhttps://www.ncfr.org/ncfr-report/current-issue/presidents-report-marriage-becoming-pass
- Cross, P. & Mitchell, P.J. (2014, February). The marriage gap between rich and poor Canadians. Ottawa: IMFC. Retrieved from http://www.imfcanada.org/sites/default/files/event/CMD-FINAL.pdf
- Ontario Ministry of Education (2015). The Ontario curriculum grades 1 -8 – Health and physical education. p. 15. Retrieved from http://www.edu.gov.on.ca/eng/curriculum/elementary/health.html
- Ministry of Education (2015). The Ontario curriculum, p. 199.
- Jenkins, C.S.I., (2015, May 15). What’s love got to do with sex ed? Maybe everything. Globe and Mail. Retrieved fromhttp://www.theglobeandmail.com/globe-debate/whats-love-got-to-do-with-sex-ed-maybe-everything/article24456722/