Actress Emily Letts works at abortion clinic Cherry Hill Women’s Center in New Jersey, and recently filmed her own abortion so she could tell her “story” and put a “positive” spin on the face of abortion.
The abortion selfie:
This is my story. This is ONLY my story. I do not pretend that it is anything more or anything less. I do not speak for everyone on this sensitive subject and I respect everyone’s opinions as long as they do not force them onto others.
My dearest hope is that someone somewhere will see this and it will provide some guidance, strength, support, or whatever else they need in that moment. I want to tell that person that you are not alone. Having an abortion does not make you a bad person, a bad woman, a bad mother. Having an abortion does not make you guilty. It is simply one step in your reproductive story.
Why did Letts choose to terminate her pregnancy? And why did she choose to videotape her abortion? According to Letts, “We’re forgetting the faces of the women involved, and we’re forgetting to have empathy for the women going through it.”
Letts explained to Cosmopolitan:
Patients at the clinic always ask me if I can relate to them — have I had an abortion? Do I have kids? I was so used to saying, “I’ve never had an abortion but…” While I was pregnant and waiting for my procedure, I thought, “Wait a minute, I have to use this.”
I could have taken the pill, but I wanted to do the one that women were most afraid of. I wanted to show it wasn’t scary — and that there is such a thing as a positive abortion story. It’s my story.
I knew the cameras were in the room during the procedure, but I forgot about them almost immediately. I was focused on staying positive and feeling the love from everyone in the room. I am so lucky that I knew everyone involved, and I was so supported. I remember breathing and humming through it like I was giving birth. I know that sounds weird, but to me, this was as birth-like as it could be. It will always be a special memory for me. I still have my sonogram, and if my apartment were to catch fire, it would be the first thing I’d grab.
Safe, legal, and “positive”
Wait a minute, something doesn’t ring true here. There are many mixed messages going on. But then, relying on feelings for morality is like building on shifting sands.
Is it calling the abortion “birth-like”? See, we’re just the same as moms who give birth! (Except for the teensy weensy fact that we’re terminating our babies).
Could it be that humming? How many of you moms out there hummed through your labors?!
Is it that she says we need “empathy” for the women undergoing abortion and at the same time she claims abortion is positive and guilt-free? If abortion is so fantabulous why should we feel sorry for anyone choosing this humdinger of a procedure?
Is it the fact that Letts says she doesn’t speak for all women, this is “ONLY” her own individual “story.” Then she pleads on Youtube in capitals: “PLEASE PLEASE SHARE THIS VIDEO.”
Or that several times she calls herself a “pretty lucky girl” and claims afterwards, “I don’t feel sad,” while she looks haunted?
Or her comment: “I knew that what I was going to do was right because it was right for me and no one else.” What does that even mean? Abortion is right for her, but no one else?
Or is it her claim that if a fire came, the first thing she would save is the sonogram of her baby? Why is that so hard for me to believe?
Or this: “I feel like I talk to women all the time and they’re like ‘Of course everyone feels bad about this. Of course everyone’s going to feel guilty’ as if it’s a given how people should feel about this.” So she doesn’t want to be told how to feel, but then she produces this ad for abortion to tell other women how they should feel: positive. This is not just moral relativism. This is emotional superiority. Don’t tell me how to feel. I’ll show you how to feel.
Finally, both sides agree
Finally, both pro-abortion and pro-life teams can agree on something: videotaping your abortion is reprehensible. Although not everyone agrees. One pro-abortion organization granted Letts’ video an award.
Many pro-lifers are outraged at the callous disregard Letts showed for her child as well as her fervid loyalty to the abortion industry. Terminating babies is bad enough, now we’re supposed to be “positive” about it and watch women smile through it??
Many abortion advocates are angry at the bad press that Letts generated as well as her poor example. Normally they revert automatically to the we-need-more-birth-control talking points when confronted with abortion. In fact, one Cosmo commenter couldn’t resist robotically spouting the contraception mandate: “we have to focus on making birth control and plan B more readily available to the masses and teaching kids everything about sex.”
Number one, Letts is not a child. Number two, she worked at an abortion clinic. She counseled hundreds of clients about birth control. Letts gives the lie to the claim that all we need is more Plan B. Access to condoms is obviously not the problem. The problem here is access to a sane moral code.
Does working in the abortion trade cause a person to go insane? Planned Parenthood sells the lie to both men and women (and schoolchildren) that you can have sex whenever you want with no responsibility for the ensuing child. And when you base an entire industry on a lie, you reap crazy results. See Kermit Gosnell.
It takes a village to raise a child
How did our virtual village raise Emily Letts?
Presumably the abortionist and coworkers agreed to be videotaped. Meanwhile, the father of the child was summarily excluded from the decision.
But how did motherhood get such a bad reputation? Being a mother is now considered so execrable that women are encouraged to avoid it at all costs? Even at the price of their child’s life?
Normal mothers fleeing a fire would scoop up their infant, not their baby’s photo. Why does Letts treasure her sonogram more than the actual child it depicts? Did too much time online create this skewed preference for a picture over a life? Did Planned Parenthood teach her that? Did I? Did you?
Did you, like me, once support a young mother’s decision to abort her baby?
Did you, like me, once put your career ahead of your child’s well-being?
Did you, like most Americans, vote for a politician who thinks pregnancy is a punishment, and that abortion clinics are doing God’s work. “Thank you, Planned Parenthood. God bless you.” And that if a baby survives a botched abortion, she should be left to die?
Legal abortion was foisted on America through an invented “right to privacy.” It was supposed to be between a woman and her doctor. Now it’s between Emily Letts and over a million viewers.
Obamacare also broke the code of privacy by mandating that everyone pay for everyone else’s abortions. Even celibate nuns caring for the elderly must pay for abortion drugs, or risk being fined out of the nursing home business. Instead of remaining between a mother and her doctor, funding for abortion drugs are now charged to the Little Sisters of the Poor for your neighbor’s son’s ex-girlfriend’s Plan B.
This is no longer Letts’ private story. It’s public now.
What’s next in Letts’ reproductive tale? How long it will take for the regret to begin? Some believe it has already started. Look at her face in the video—you can see her grief, they say. Or is that concocted sorrow? Simply her acting skills on display? Was this entire production an actress’s fight for fame?
Yesterday we celebrated Mother’s Day, which began “as a way of honoring the sacrifices mothers made for their children.”
It’s time for us to act like mothers and make sacrifices for children, rather than work in an industry that sacrifices children for the acting careers of mothers.
Yes, it takes a village to raise a child. But first it takes a mother.
What is your village saying to young ladies? That mothers are irreplaceable and we should support them as much as possible? Or that mothers are unwanted and we should exclude them from children’s lives?
Does your village teach that motherhood is a beautiful sacrifice that showers blessings on women and society? Or that motherhood is so heinous we should kill children to avoid it?
Whether you speak in person, at the voting booth, or on Facebook, what do you tell the young women in your village?
“Abortion kills twice. It kills the body of the baby and it kills the conscience of the mother. Abortion is profoundly anti-women. Three quarters of its victims are women: Half the babies and all the mothers.”
I’m waiting for Letts to experience her Unplanned moment when she wakes up and realizes what she’s done. I look forward to her positive video explaining Why I Regret Aborting My Child and How I Healed. (If you need help with that, check out Project Rachel).
I await the day America realizes our mistake is not a scarcity of contraception, rather a dearth of respect for motherhood and children.
No, Mr. President. It’s not “God bless” Planned Parenthood. Rather, God bless the little children.
Let’s honor mothers and motherhood itself, not just this Sunday, but every day. Yes, mothering is difficult. But with each sacrifice comes a chance to expand our hearts. Children give us the opportunity to grow in love and wisdom. Yes, there are challenges. But they are far outweighed by blessings and joy.
Happy Mother’s Day to all mothers, including post-abortive ones.
Emily, whether you like it or not, you are a mother now. It’s time to act like one. And as far as roles go, it’s a beautiful one.
At your job, you can stop choosing death and start counseling mothers to choose life. You can choose to marry before your next pregnancy, and star in your own life as a loving mother:
Kelly Bartlett has been practicing life, love, and marriage for decades, hoping to improve her game. She writes from Vermont. She blogs at Home Griddle, where this was first published.