It goes without saying – in a day and age like ours, I fear for my future daughters. For the things they’ll see and hear, and for the influences that could wreak havoc on their sense of worth.

So when I read a short but wonderful article called “Four Reminders for My Daughter After She Was Called Fat,” I was thrilled and very keen to share it. It shares the points of author Justin Ricklef’s wife, after their daughter revealed that a school mate had called her fat. The following is taken directly from the article:

  1. Your Beauty is Internal – Rowan is a strikingly, physically beautiful little girl. Huge hazel eyes, thick curly hair, a contagious smile. But more than that, my goodness so much more than that, she has the biggest heart this side of the Mississippi. Her heart is what makes her beautiful, not her looks.
  2. You Will be Hurt – Most of the time, people mean well. But there are hurtful, jealous, insensitive, insecure people out there too. People that take joy (misplaced clearly) in hurting someone else. It’s OK to not be buddy buddy with those kinds of people. Pursue people that protect you and are proud to be your friend. And when someone hurts you, know they may have tough stuff going on in their own lives.
  3. You Aren’t Defined by Your Body – Culture will try and tell you that you must have certain curves in certain places to be beautiful. That you should tweak, alter, change anything that doesn’t align with that view of beauty. But your body doesn’t define you, you were created for much more than that. An identity that can’t be shaken or stolen from you.
  4. We Love You Regardless – She’s not fat, but it was beautiful to hear Brooke say over and over, “even if you were fat, or thin, or anything else in the whole world, it doesn’t change the way we love you.” And true friends won’t care about that either.

Isn’t that great? I don’t know about you, but I’m saving it away to use whenever the need arises.

Tamara El-Rahi is an associate editor of MercatorNet. A Journalism graduate from the University of Technology Sydney, she lives in Australia with her husband and two daughters.