Parenting writer Bethany Mandel has some words of advice for American media celeb/activist Rosie O’Donnell:

Last week [mid-August] Rosie O’Donnell experienced every parent’s nightmare. Her daughter went missing and despite every effort to contact the 17 year old, she couldn’t reach her or bring her home. After days of vague-tweeting about the disappearance, the former talk show host put out a public message and involved law enforcement in her search to bring her daughter home.

In the course of her search, Rosie released personal details about her daughter, in all likelihood to inform the public of just how important it was to locate Chelsea as soon as possible. She tweeted about her daughter’s mental health issues and that she had stopped taking her medication. Rosie has since deleted these tweets, but the Internet is forever, and major news outlets like CNN reported on the revelations.

Given the fact that Chelsea wasn’t in communication with her family, it’s clear that at the time of the tweets, the teenager, whose mental health was being discussed in public, did not give consent for her medical history to be revealed to the world by her mother or anyone else. Since Chelsea’s safe return, Rosie has continued tweeting about the situation. She has made public that the man her daughter was with is a heroin dealer and overall bad guy. More

If so, the toxic spill onto Twitter was likely superfluous. The needed information could have been supplied discreetly to law enforcement personnel—who very often already have files on such “bad guys.”

As Mandel says,

Despite the fact that she never asked for it, I’m going to give Rosie some parenting advice. Given how public she has been with her daughter’s struggles, I now know way more than I should about the situation in her home. Which fuels the following:

Get. Off. Twitter.

Stop tweeting about your daughter, about her struggles, about the entire situation. More

And sure enough, this just in:

Chelsea O’Donnell was reported missing by the former ‘View’ presenter in August, who claimed she had run away and was mentally ill, but the teenager has alleged her adoptive mother ordered her to leave the family home on August 11, two weeks before her 18th birthday.

On August 18, Rosie made social media pleas and issued a statement appealing for her daughter to return home as she was “in need of medical attention”, claiming she was suffering from a mental illness, which Chelsea found “really hurtful”.

She added in an interview with MailOnline: “I think she did that because people started asking questions and she didn’t want to seem like this bad parent that had kicked her daughter out. 

See what Mandel means?

I don’t know what really happened. Do you? Is there any way we could help? No. Is it our business? No.

But we can learn something: We all have family problems, and let’s all just keep them off the internet.

Denyse O’Leary is a Canadian journalist, author, and blogger.

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Denyse O’Leary is an author, journalist, and blogger who has mainly written popular science and social science. Fellow Canadian Marshall McLuhan’s description of electronic media as a global village...